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Before we dive into this question, ‘who should pay for the date?’, I have some questions for you. The first one is, have you ever volunteered to clear the bill when on a date? Why did you do it? Was it out of care for the other person? or, did you just feel obligated to pay?
Well, here is my answer. I have paid for a date, actually not one but a few of them. Why did I do this? Because I cared for the other person and I wanted to show them that they mean a lot to me than a few dollars.
There are no hard-and-fast rules when it comes to paying for dates which can be super confusing especially in the modern world where so much has changed. Traditionally, it is believed that a guy should pay for the date and literally everything else. In the 21st century, however, guys are not obligated to do that which is the reason we are having this discussion.
WHO SHOULD PAY FOR THE DATE?
This is the most controversial topic in the dating world. Keep reading if you concur. Who should pay for the date? According to a massive online research that was carried out on heterosexual men and women by Janet Lever from California State University, 84% of men and 58% of women revealed that most dating expenses are covered by men most of the time. It also uncovered the fact that 64% of men usually expect their partner to offer a hand in clearing the bills while 44% of women are often bothered if they are asked to chip in.
WHO SHOULD PAY FOR THE DATE? FROM THE MAN’S PERSPECTIVE
A large percentage of men feel that the guy should pay for the first date. They often believe that when one invites a girl out it is one’s responsibility to ensure that she’s comfortable and feels taken care of. Some of the guys that have been interviewed in the past years said that they normally feel obligated to pay for the date because it is a gentleman’s rule. As a guy, do you feel the same?
If the lady offers to pay for the first date or split the bill, a guy always declines the offer which is a clear show of intention, but this only applies if you are interested in being more than friends with whoever you are on a date with. This way, the lady will not think of you just as a friend. However, in the case of a second date, the guy will allow the lady to either pay for the date or split the bill.
This only happens if the lady offers and insists on paying which should not take place without some resistance. According to most men, a lady offering to pay or split the bill is a show of consideration and independence which is super attractive to men. Thereafter, the question of ‘who should pay for the date?’ becomes a matter of discussion where they can choose to alternate or split the bill on future dates.
WHO SHOULD PAY FOR THE DATE? FROM THE WOMAN’S PERSPECTIVE
A large percentage of women feel that the guy should pay for the first date. Not only because it is the gentleman thing to do but also because it shows that he is actually interested in her and wants to take care of her. However, a considerable number of women that have been interviewed over the years felt that the lady should always pay for the date or split the bill, this is because if the man is let to pay then the lady would feel obligated to make out or have sex with him.
In short paying, the bill prevents her from feeling guilty or feeling that she owes him anything. According to the ladies, paying the bill shows independence. It portrays the lady as being capable of taking care of yourself. However, in the case of a second date or other dates thereafter, one should be open to splitting the bill. As a lady, what do you think?
WHO SHOULD PAY FOR THE DATE? THE EXPERTS VIEW
There are many reasons why people offer or feel obligated to pay the bill when on a date. You should not pay for the date for the mere reason that if you let the guy pay you will feel obligated to make out or have sex with him. Some women never offer to pay for the date because they feel that it is a man’s duty to do so. This is wrong and unfair.
The modern world is not exactly as male-dominated as before hence the duty to clear the bill should not fall to the man only. If you are the type of lady who never lifts a finger when the bill is placed on the table, you need to think again about your motives. Put yourself in the guy’s shoe and try to see things from his perspective. Is it fair? We all need to be shown love and care and if you expect him to pay all the damn time doesn’t cut it.
Rosanna Hertz, Wellesley College Sociologist, and an author suggest that as a lady, you should be direct and offer something when the bill arrives. Hence, the answer to ‘who should pay for the date?’ is both parties should reach a mutual agreement after taking to account some considerations like personal finances.
Alex Williamson, the head of the brand at Bumble (dating app) thinks that the best guiding principle is that the one to pay the bill is the person who does the asking out. If the lady is the one who asked the guy out then she should be the one to pick the tab. Additionally, both parties should split the bill.
The answer to ‘who should pay the date?’ according to Talia Goldstein, founder, and CEO of Three-Day Rule, a matchmaking company, the guy should pick up the tab on the first date. On other dates, they should do alternate paying or splitting the bill depending on what both parties agree upon.
There is no definite answer to the question, who should pay the bill? As a lady, you should not always expect the guy to clear the bill. Offer to chip in sometime or pay the whole amount when in a position to do so. This shows that you care for your partner and that you are capable of taking care of him. It is only fair that the burden to pay does not fall on him all the time.
As a gentleman, as much as paying for the date is a gentleman rule, accept your lady’s help sometimes. This is a show of respect and trust. However, always be ready to pay unless she offers to help. However, paying for the first date will go a long way since it shows that you care and are interested in this person.
What do you think? ? have you been on dates where you felt pressure to pay a large bill? or obliged to be intimate because your bill was paid for?
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